Sunday, September 2, 2012

Begin The Cycle of Trust




In a few more days I'll be hitting 20-years-old. I have successfully survived 1/5 of a century. A big thing I'd say. 
I have been thinking a lot lately about the past and the passage that I have passed. One thing that I find very crucial in one's life that we lack today is TRUST. If you observe well, nowadays people tend to trust dogs more than a human. I would't be amazed if someone were to be married with dogs in near future.

TRUST is just a 5 lettered word with a huge impact in everyone's life. To my perception the trust that we give and take form another is never certain. Sad to say! but in world today everything is materialised. One sees another as an opportunity/advantage, with some expectation for their personal benefit because not many sees trust as sacred and divine it is. 


 T-R-U-S-T ?
yes trust and so I googled the word “trust.” It was a sobering experience. Google listed about 20 results and none met a single instance of trust in the sense of belief in something or someone. There were all types of financial trusts, businesses with “Trust” in their names, movies, companies eager to help you set up personal trusts, charitable trusts but nothing about putting your trust in anything or anyone. When I did find an post relating to trust in this common sense, it was about mistrust; a psychiatrist offering help for people whose trust had been abused through disloyalty or fraud.


Trust is fundamental to life. If you cannot trust in anything, life becomes intolerable a constant battle against paranoia and looming disaster. You can’t have relationships without trust, let alone good ones. Intimacy depends on it. I suspect more marriages are wrecked by lack of trust than by actual unfaithfulness. The partner who can’t trust the other not to betray him/her will either drive them away or force them into some real or assumed act of faithlessness.

Someone has to begin the cycle of trust by an act of faith. It’s no use waiting for the other person to make the first move. They’re waiting for you. It takes a conscious act of unconditional belief in that other person’s good sense, ability, honesty or sense of commitment to set the ball rolling. Will your trust sometimes be misplaced? Of course! Life isn’t perfect and some people aren’t trustworthy. But will increasing your willingness to trust produce, on balance, a positive benefit? Will it make your life more pleasant and less stressful? I believe so. You have little to lose by trying.
Trust has to start somewhere. Why not with you? Why not today? Why not right now? 

"The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them" - Ernest Hemingway